This post was written by Scot Longyear. Scot is the Lead Pastor of Exchange which is part of Maryland Community Church where Scot is a Sr. Associate Pastor.
“Jerry Turley is dead.“
I stared across the desk at my boss and Sr Pastor as he said the words.
“I just got a call that Jerry died in his sleep last night.”
I felt like I was instantly in another world. “Jerry Turley? Who the heck is Jerry Turley?”
Then it hit. Like somebody dropped a bag of concrete on my gut. Jerry Turley, my friend. Jerry, our drummer. Jerry, who we had written and recorded songs with. Jerry who we had done several gigs with. Jerry, one the most gentle guys in the word. Jerry a lover of Jesus. Dead.
Jerry was just short of 40 years old. One evening he went for a bike ride with his girlfriend. He kissed her goodnight and she went home. It was the last time Jerry would kiss. He died hours later in his sleep.
Jerry’s mom asked me to speak at the funeral. I had to decline. I was a mess. There is a special bond that band people share. Few may understand it. When you create, play, laugh, worship, and rock together, there is something magical that happens. That bond was broken and so was I. I bawled thru the entire funeral. My band mates and I grabbed the casket and carried it out the door and slid it in the hearse. You never dream that you will be pallbearer for one of your friends.
I remember the days that followed. One minute I would laugh, the next I would cry. One morning after his death, I remember staring at the clothes in my closet. The next thing I knew I was literally on the floor, bawling like a baby. I missed Jerry.
It has been 10 years, and I still miss him.
I was in uncharted territory. Jerry was the drummer for our band, Fish in the Sand. Fish was the house band for a new and growing ministry called exchange. The ministry was young and we were the only musicians and the only band. As the leader I felt this pressure to keep things going. How could we keep going with a crippled band? My friends and bad-mates decided that the best thing to do was to take a few weeks off from worship leading. We needed some time, and the church was gracious to allow us that.
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